Men and Apartments
As my apartment hunt has now moved into it’s terminal phase, I’ve realized that apartment hunting is a lot like dating. The parallels are frightening at times, but lessons learned from one can usually be applied to the other. Here is a list of the lessons I’ve learned in trying to find both an apartment and a boyfriend. Mind you...I haven't yet been successful in either.
1. It’s always better to shop for one when you don’t need one.
2. Appearing desperate can only hurt you.
3. Make a list of the core characteristics you’re looking for, and don’t compromise them because you’ll only regret it later. However, be flexible on the small things because they may not matter as much as you think.
4. Only accept an offer out of genuine interest and not out of politeness or an inability to say “no.”
5. Be honest about what you want, with yourself and with others. If you say you’re looking to commit, but really still want some more time to explore your options, you’re just being a dick.
6. When you get overwhelmed with your search, take a break. Sometimes you need to withdraw and regroup to get a fresh perspective on what you’re looking for.
7. Once you find one, it’s usually temporary, while friendship can last a lifetime. Never spite your friends to find one…unless you find a REALLY good one.
8. Dress to impress. You never know when you walk into one of these situations if you will be the interviewer or the interviewee. Either situation can only be improved for you if you’re wearing your good-ass jeans.
9. Never commit to anything the first time you meet. You may feel differently after you get a good night’s sleep. It’s best to keep the first meeting cordial and brief, think about the experience, and then decide whether or not you want to continue.
10. Age is subjective. Newer isn’t always better. Sure, newer usually looks better initially, but you also have to expect that newer also means you could be surprised by problems that come up as time goes by. Older may not attract you initially, but you may find that older is more comfortable and reliable, even if it requires a little getting used to. Rely on #3.
Having said all this, it is critical to remember that while craigslist.org can help you in your search for one, it will NOT help you in your search for the other…
1. It’s always better to shop for one when you don’t need one.
2. Appearing desperate can only hurt you.
3. Make a list of the core characteristics you’re looking for, and don’t compromise them because you’ll only regret it later. However, be flexible on the small things because they may not matter as much as you think.
4. Only accept an offer out of genuine interest and not out of politeness or an inability to say “no.”
5. Be honest about what you want, with yourself and with others. If you say you’re looking to commit, but really still want some more time to explore your options, you’re just being a dick.
6. When you get overwhelmed with your search, take a break. Sometimes you need to withdraw and regroup to get a fresh perspective on what you’re looking for.
7. Once you find one, it’s usually temporary, while friendship can last a lifetime. Never spite your friends to find one…unless you find a REALLY good one.
8. Dress to impress. You never know when you walk into one of these situations if you will be the interviewer or the interviewee. Either situation can only be improved for you if you’re wearing your good-ass jeans.
9. Never commit to anything the first time you meet. You may feel differently after you get a good night’s sleep. It’s best to keep the first meeting cordial and brief, think about the experience, and then decide whether or not you want to continue.
10. Age is subjective. Newer isn’t always better. Sure, newer usually looks better initially, but you also have to expect that newer also means you could be surprised by problems that come up as time goes by. Older may not attract you initially, but you may find that older is more comfortable and reliable, even if it requires a little getting used to. Rely on #3.
Having said all this, it is critical to remember that while craigslist.org can help you in your search for one, it will NOT help you in your search for the other…
posted by Marty Stroodler at 6:58 PM
2 Comments:
i thought long and hard over this post. so the best thing that came to me was "fuck em and run daddy" ok i'm done. MUAH
apartment hunting can be agonizing and exciting all at the same time ... i got lucky with mine and kind of fell on it. yeah, there are some things that i'd change, but no where is perfect.
yep, you're right, just change the nouns and i could be talking about a guy ...
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